Ezzeldine, who wrote a short book called “Before the Wedding: Questions for Muslims to Ask Before Getting Married,” tries to offer her coreligionists a way of getting to know each other without violating the standards of the faith.
Ezzeldine wants Muslims to have “the conversations to get to know somebody for marriage in a way” that is more than superficial.
Right now they often just say, “Oh I think we get along,” but they don’t know “what you need to know about a person” before you marry him or her.
She also notes that families in the Muslim community have wildly different expectations of religious life and marriage so it is important for everyone to be on the same page.
(WOMENSENEWS)– Munira Ezzeldine, a marriage counselor in Irvine, Calif., who is one of the instructors of a premarital course, tells me that Islam in America is at a “kind of crossroads now.” She explains, “We don’t have something called dating in the Western context, you know with pre-marital sex and all the stuff that comes with it.” But young Muslims are also not interested in having arranged marriages as their parents and grandparents did.